Play is the work of childhood, and chances are, you feel like your child’s co-worker. Maybe even their direct report! Babies need constant supervision, but toddlers thrive when they’re given space to explore and play more independently.

If your child always insists you play with them, it’s not because they don’t enjoy playing solo. It’s because independent play is a skill that develops with practice. Your child probably hasn't had many opportunities to learn how to entertain themself.

As little ones grow, their increased attention span and mastery of developmental skills supports extended independent play. But even toddlers can benefit from short, regular sessions of independent play in a safe area. Here’s how to foster fun, party of one.

1. Start small (and short)

Think of independent play as a muscle. It requires regular exercise. Short frequent workouts are more impactful and habit-building than a single long session.

Playtime length can vary greatly by child and depending on the activity. The general rule of thumb is:

1-2 years: 5-10 minutes

2-4 years: 10-20 minutes

Start with a few minutes of independent play and let your child work their way up. Remember: consistency matters more than duration.

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2. Stay “busy” nearby

Toddlers are more comfortable playing on their own when a caregiver is close by. Plus, they still need supervision to stay safe and not destroy your home. 🙂

Stay on the periphery of your child’s play area, but focus on your own tasks. Stick to low-stakes chores or activities that won’t distract your child. Fold laundry, sip coffee, tidy up around the room, or do a few stretches.

3. Select toys thoughtfully

Some play scenarios are more inspiring than others. Set out a few toys your child can play with in various ways. A smaller, more intentional selection focuses your child’s attention.

Select open-ended toys that invite more imaginative play. Think: blocks, paper, stuffed animals, or crayons. Toys that are hyper-realistic (like a toy phone) and do things on their own (light up, sing, drive around, etc.) are more limiting.

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4. Give your toddler a prompt

Don’t be surprised if your little one needs some guidance. Most of their day is structured around routines others have established.

Offer a prompt and then allow your child to interpret it through solo play.

A few prompt ideas:

“I’m going to sit right here while you draw whatever you want.”
“Can you build something tall?”
“I wonder what your animals are doing today.”

5. Reassure and redirect

If your kiddo’s new to independent play, they may ask you to join them or keep checking in with updates about their play. This is normal. You’re their favorite person, after all. Gently encourage your child to return to independent play with reassurance and redirection.

Scenario: Your toddler wants you to stack blocks.
Response: “I’ll be right here, while you play with your blocks.” 

Scenario: Your toddler shows you a picture they drew.
Response: “That looks beautiful. Can you go back and draw something else?”